“Out of your vulnerabilities, will come your strength.”- Sigmund Freud

Do you keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again?

 
 
 

Can you see the repeating patterns you’re stuck in? Perhaps you shout at your kids, or your relationships never work out. Maybe you can’t stop overeating or drinking, or you experience anxiety. 

You try your hardest to change. You read blogs, do free online workshops, watch youtube and socials. You try to change your thinking, or use willpower. 

Yet you keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again. 

You don’t need to tackle these issues on your own

 

The truth is, you can’t think yourself to a feeling of safety, or know about your unconscious, without the help of a professional.

The unconscious is what we can’t see ourselves, such as why we repeat patterns and make the same mistakes again and again. The unconscious also causes bodily issues such as IBS, UC, migraines, fatigue or sleep issues. In therapy we will analyse the unconscious to bring about change.

Feeling safe is a body and nervous system state. The key is identifying what’s happening in your body so you can self regulate.

In therapy you will learn how to interocept (internal body awareness), accurately identify what’s happening within you, and how to regulate.

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Sarai Monk seated in her therapy consultation room in Romsey, Hampshire

“If you’ve tried almost everything and nothing has worked, then chances are, there are unconscious processes at play in your body and in your mind.”

Getting to the root cause of your symptoms

 

I like to think of trauma as an open wound: it bleeds and stings, you’re scared to go near it, you constantly protect it. Its rawness means you can’t forget about it, because the pain is unpredictable, uncontrollable, and getting triggered is like salt in the wound.

Through therapy, together, we heal it into a scar. It will never be completely gone, but it will no longer take over.

How therapy can help get you learn, heal and grow

 

We heal the wound in therapy. We stitch it back together so it can scab over and heal, leaving only a scar. 

It doesn’t mean the wound disappears or is forgotten. The scar will always be there, but it doesn’t sting anymore.

You’re free of it because it’s in the past where it belongs, and now you can be the best version of yourself.

 
 
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Issues I’ve worked with include:

 

  • divorce

  • menopause

  • trauma

  • narcissistic abuse

  • historical sexual abuse

  • sexual assault

  • anger issues

  • identity issues

  • transgender issues

  • chronic fatigue

  • obesity

  • workplace issues

  • ptsd

  • c-ptsd (developmental trauma)

If you can relate, I’d be happy to talk about about how I can support you.

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FAQs

 

  • The initial assessment consultation:

    75 minutes - £150 - £165.

    Ongoing therapy sessions:

    50 minutes - £90 - £110.

    I have some low fee spaces. If you need a lower fee, or are a psychotherapy or counselling trainee, please ask me about availability.

    I review fees annually at the end of the financial year and may increase fees in line with inflation.

  • Payment is due prior to your session by bank transfer, or by cash on the day of your session.

  • If you have a specific problem you want to address, and you don’t want long term therapy (this will be assessed in your initial consultations), then together we’ll decide on the duration of your therapy during your initial consultations.

    Time-limited therapy generally helps with current life situations or things that aren’t too complex. It usually lasts between 3 – 6 months, and can have excellent outcomes in certain circumstances.

  • Open-ended therapy constitutes the majority of my work, and focuses on deeper issues that have roots reaching back into the past, that are affecting your life now. Over time, we pull out the weeds and toxic roots, nurture your strengths, plant healthier roots, and build stronger foundations, so that you can grow, and reach your potential.

  • I require two weeks notice for ending your therapy.

    This way, we have time to acknowledge and help you process whatever emerges in response to the ending.

    During your therapy, we can review the work regularly, and you can choose when you feel ready to end.

  • My focus is to help you heal so that you can live a better, more fulfilling life. The most important thing is that we are a good fit, and this is something we can work out in your assessment consultations.

    I’m fascinated by what makes us human, and have spent the past 20 years exploring this from a psychological and biological/movement orientated perspective. Specifically, how we are traumatised and how we heal, from the perspective of the link between the body, the mind, and the unconscious.

    I was trained at some of the best institutions in the UK, and I regularly continue my professional development. I follow developments and research within my field, and within neuroscience and neurobiology (the link between the brain, nervous system and behaviour).

    I am registered with various governing bodies, and adhere to the BACP’s code of ethics.

 
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